Many years ago, when I had published just one book, I attended an RWA conference for the first time. Of course I was awed by the many writers with long lists of books and awards, with the appropriate fame to go along. You know, the fan girl persona so many of us get at RWA events.
One of these star authors, a woman I admired for her novels and promotional accomplishments, spoke at an informal session, where several panelists were trying to define the ingredients of a good love story. Let’s call my celebrated star Fiona, in case she’d want anonymity. The conversation snagged on the lack of romances made into films.
“I know why,” Fiona said. “Because love happens in your brain. It’s no action movie theme.”
Then she broke into laughter. “Let me tell you a story,” she went on. “A few weeks ago, I needed to have a new computer connection installed in my office. The workman arrived and started crawling around on the floor under my desk. Then the phone rang, and it was an interviewer from a major newspaper. I didn’t dare ask her to call back. So I sat near my desk and answered her questions, all about the emotional side of love stories and how the brain is the primary sex organ. I finished the interview and hung up about the time the workman crawled out from under the desk, his tasks completed.
“’Listen, lady,’ he exclaimed, “I don’t know about you, but my brain is definitely not my primary sex organ!’”
The entire room of romance writers erupted in raucous hilarity. You can be sure I have continued to read almost every book Fiona publishes.
But this topic is still worth considering for every story we try to write. How does an author express her characters steps along the way toward that goal we all seek, a meaningful and reciprocal relationship? The inner dialogue, the outward evidences of passion, the evocative looks of concern…we must make them come alive in the mind of the reader. And it all happens in the brain! And must be related in words and reflected in conflicts that force those characters apart…to make life-changing choices that enable their love. And how are those choices made? Why, in the brain of course.
A few years ago, I read five or six novels in a row that used the word frisson (French for shiver, usually a thrilling one) to describe “that” feeling. By the third or fourth time I read it, the word just irritated me. But I think I used it once too, and I hope my readers didn’t have the same reaction.
I wonder if Fiona’s computer installer would describe the reaction of his primary sex organ as a frisson?
What do you think? Is the brain the primary sex organ in your WIP?
Victoria Hinshaw has been published since 1983. Her latest short story will be released soon in From Florida With Love: Moonlight and Steamy Nights, an anthology produced by the Southwest Florida Romance Writers, Vicky’s winter chapter. Visit Victoria at her website, at her blog or on Pinterest or Facebook at Victoria Hinshaw – Author.